How my 2023 been- Life updates and lessons I learnt
2023 is over and I am 27 and a half years old! Ironically, I feel like a lot of things that I've learnt so far in my life need re-learning and unlearning. Do you feel this way too? This post is a personal log of how 2023 has been, a quick life review of the year, and of course, the life lessons!
This pic right here, is precisely how I faced 2023, as threatening, humongous, intimidating, at awe, and at the same time, comforting with the sprinkles of water droplets as the waterfalls were was 2023 to me, opening my vision to a lot of things I wasn't really paying attention to.
Events of my life in 2023:
Akshara started her Montessori/ daycare in April which was a rollercoaster of a couple of months; I got a work from home job in April; finished my Master's Degree in Finance in April; went to meet my close friends in the US in May after 6 months since their move; got the gut-churning news of my father's passing while on Vacation at their place in May; so spent about 3 weeks with mom, brother and other relatives in India. Upon return, I joined my new job, which I am extremely thankful for, everyday. My daughter turned 2 in July. With an attempt to distract myself from the grief, we've gone on a week trip to Montreal, Quebec in July for my Birthday. Upon return, my brother drops upon us, the news of his love for this girl who's family is disapproving of their marriage. So, he had to register the marriage without their will and had to face some retaliation from their end around September. As this slowly subsided, my mom slipped upon the mud from previous night's rain and broke her left wrist in October, and she had to go through a surgery to fix the first ever fracture she ever had. On the other hand in October, during the Thanksgiving weekend, I almost set my house on fire with dripping butter from the fruit cake where the cake pan wasn't fully locked from protruding Parchment paper. Finally, the last couple weeks of the year were spent to the US, visiting a couple of friends and celebrating Christmas with them.
A quick life review in 2023:
2023 has been a ton of bricks in many ways. Losing my father for starters, being unable to be around my mom when she had to rest due to fractured wrist, having to leave Akshara and Raghav without my support during my stay in India, having to drop all kinds of huge plans for my brother's wedding combined with a trip to India with my daughter, along with the anxiety about their wellbeing amid chaos. Not to mention, Akshara's transition phase during initial days of Montessori was particularly tricky. On the other hand, I am also grateful for all the wonderful experiences I had this year. Being able to afford to fly during distress and to help my family, being able to have found the strength in mind and body to bear the vacuum that losing my father has created, being able to distinguish useful thoughts and emotions from those pointless, ruminating ones, being able to overcome and learn from situations I face, being able to be a pillar of strength and support to my mom, especially in her emotional balance, and much more, have shown me how growth and evolving to be stronger really is an endless journey.
My life lessons for 2023:
This list goes in no real order but the thought flow:
Our lives are really as feeble as a bubble. There's no real guarantee as to how long one can live or how soon one can pass away. THIS MOMENT can be the LAST for anyone, however, we act like we live endlessly.
Thoughts and emotions actually decide the quality of life. Also, these are the only things we control in our life and we grow what we sow.
Environment, Time, and Body are distractors- They influence our thoughts and emotions for the most part. Being conscious of these factors and having control over how much we get consumed is important.
Identity is what we create and or associate ourselves with, to feel safe, to feel belonged, and to feed our ego. We are a speck of this Cosmos and that's all there is to it.
Manifestation is as real as the air we breathe and the food we eat. Quantum level energy exchanges, as incomprehensible as it may be, are as real as you and I are.
We are what we consume. So, decide between taking in goodness and BS which is available in large quantities these days.
There's only one way to control the chatter within us and the first step is to observe every single thought that crosses our mind, at all times.
Placebo effect is proof that thoughts influence our health, wellbeing, and our future in several ways.
Parenting might appear simple, looking how we were parented, but the information overload, the ease in the access to this information load that the children of this generation are exposed to weren't an issue in our past days. So, it needs a fundamental shaping of their mindset which involves instilling an inherent sense of doing things that are absolutely essential, and the art of prioritizing.
Giving genuine appreciation for things, people, and things around you and those that touched you, can give a deep satisfaction and happiness, that I haven't felt even while receiving the same. I also figured that giving feels more nurturing within me, than receiving.
Love is limitless. I find myself loving several places, things, people, actions, events, books, facts, activities, etc, and the more I love something, I don't run out of it, in fact it is otherwise. I seem to find more love to give as I give more of it!
You don't need an external event to stay happy. You can fix your baseline emotion or temperament to happiness, which you can return to after the existing mood.
There's a guiding force within me, the life energy that knows what I should be doing, and when, to navigate me through events of my life in an efficient way. For instance, I read a book called 'Death' by Sadhguru out of nowhere. It was not on my reading list, nor did I get any recommendation. It was so random, but in a grand scheme of things, it wasn't so. I read this and a few other mental strength books precisely a month before my father's passing, and how much these books helped me overcome the grief is immeasurable.
My devotion to the Ultimate truth, to Shiva- The Nothingness where the entire Universe take place, increases exponentially with time and whatever name one gives to this space- Quantum Gap, the 99.999999999999% of an atom, the Creator, the Supreme Intelligence, the God, the Nothing, Shiva, I place my faith in Him.
As you go, as you live your life, day after day, moment after moment, if you're observant enough, if you are conscious enough, the events, emotions, thoughts, people, places, things, body, time, and those rarest moments of stillness teach you life lessons, and.make you come stronger on the other side, constantly!
Sru🔥
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