5 things to stop wasting time on
How you look: Well, I find no real need to wear makeup on a daily basis. You can choose to lose excess fat or love the way your body is built, but obsession over any physical factors can ruin your internal and physical well being. As long as you feel healthy, confident, and fresh, I think a good skin care routine, lip balm, and brushing eyebrows and hair would do. Once in a while, looking glamorous and glittery might get you a few photos, but that's where it should end. Usually makeup and hair do take at least an hour of precious morning time and they don't even stay as is even throughout a day. Let's not begin to explore the damages the makeup and the heat cause to skin and hair respectively. Feeling fresh can never be beaten by makeup, I can vouch!This might look like a surface level change, but this can be deeply rooted into mental structures of self image and it takes internal work to overcome this one.
What others think of you: This is one thing we're subconsciously programmed, the need to be acceptable. The incessant compulsion to be agreeable yields us nothing but the superfluous use of time. If you think about it, what others think of you has no real impact on your life. You might argue that the workplace situation requires us to think about what others think of us but if you observe, if you're truly good enough and do the right thing, you don't have to worry about impressing anyone. If we eliminate things we do to make others accept us, to like us, or just to show our skills or possessions off, we might save a lot of time, energy, and sometimes money! Focus on what you choose to do and do it with full heart, mind, energy, and soul, and with good intentions. At the end of the day, remember that you cannot make everyone happy!
Ruminating on the past: Woah, this is a VERY BIG issue we go through even without conscious realization of the fact that we essentially live in the past. Almost 90% of the human misery involves how past changed or shaped or influenced an individual physically, mentally or emotionally. Seeing things for what it is, and separating emotions from actions could give you a fair kickstart in keeping yourself from rumination. The brain is made to function almost non-stop. All it knows is what you've got from sensory input, visual, auditory, taste, smell, or a sensation, in other words, memories of past. This includes books you've read, movies you've watched, people you've interacted, and so on. So, it can be a no-brainer to simmer on a messy goo of past concoction constantly. This can no way be changed, you can only relive in your mind, and hence in your body as many times as you like, which has no constructive outcomes except troubles.
Doing the needless: What a generalized statement! But there's nuances and needs a good understanding. For example: I am thoroughly involved in watching Grey's Anatomy. At the same time, I haven't prepared our lunch and we're getting hungry. I can choose to order fast food, is that absolutely necessary at that juncture? That is a real question. I love to meditate and in other words, sit idle, I love to write, I love to read. Can I choose to do this at all times, while I also am committed to having a family and keeping them nourished and happy? There's a great difference between doing what you like and doing what is necessary. We do not always enjoy doing certain things, but we do them anyway, because it is necessary. In simple sense, what you do should be something that you enjoy or something that is necessary. If you neither love what you do, not does it give you any outcomes, what is even the point of doing that thing?
Indulgence: I am 70% done with 'Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing' by Matthew Perry, and boy do I sympathize! Addiction of any kind is the mind's doing to the brain and body and the starting point as Matthew mentioned is that first drink. From there on, it would be a downward spiral and the whole 9 yards. What do we really get out of indulgence is usually pleasure, but most of it is short lived, before it becomes a pain. Chocolate cake might sound delicious, and the third slice would mean glucose deposits and a slew of chemical changes at a cellular level. A drink might sound fun, but the liver suffers more than you might comprehend. Seeking joy in indulgence can mean troubles more than pleasures.
References:
'Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing' by Matthew Perry.
Rewiring by Dr. Joe Dispenza.
-Sru🔥
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